Looking back, one can say with certainty that they don't miss their stress.
They aren't likely to consider "the good ol' days" as the days when they were unstable, confused, or reactive.
"Gee honey, remember when we were on vacation and we had that big blowup that almost ended 20 years of love and devotion to one another? I love reliving that argument and would give anything to have it again. Whaddya say?"
Your partner would surely think you meant the "making up" part that came after the big disagreement and would happily relive that moment again and again. When they find out you want to reenact the fight, they might be more than a little concerned about your sanity.
Considering what has been, one isn't in the habit of reminiscing with fondness about their physical pain, mental anguish, or suffering of any kind.
"That time I rolled my ankle trying to catch the A Train - wow, what a rush. If only I could feel all that throbbing pain again and get the opportunity to navigate Manhattan with a limp for weeks afterwards."
It's more likely if one is reliving this painful result of a lack of grace, it's in order to remember to take one's time going down the stairs, and if a train is missed, another one is more often than not, not far behind.
It's not that we wish these things never happened. On the contrary, the contrast has provided a springboard for evolution, each suffering event creates an opportunity for growth. Accidents and arguments happen, although, less so when one's been meditating regularly for awhile.
Why? Expansion of consciousness includes expansion of awareness. Arguments can be averted before they come to a head. Abundance mentality enhances grace and elegant timing. If an argument or accident couldn't be averted, then one who has expanded awareness will move through any pain more quickly and suffering becomes entirely optional.
Knowing all of this, knowing that our nature is to emphasize what we've learned or how we've grown rather than feeling nostalgic for pain and suffering, then we can continue the good work of releasing stress and expanding our awareness through our twice daily meditation practice.
If you have yet to learn Vedic meditation, come on, let's go. Let's get your four day course scheduled. If you have the practice but need a little inspiration or a one on one to get the ball rolling again, you can reply to this email and we'll strategize together.
Nobody misses their stress once it's gone. It's more likely that they'll have the thought, "How did I live like that for so long?"
Cheering for you on your road to greater and greater expansion.
